Okay, are you able to host an occasion? I started to do this as it put me in the control seat for at least one night during the season. It also gave me an excuse to relax and stay put from other events. Hard to explain how this is so but it honestly has worked in my case. For me, it is the lack of control which is the factor in feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and the sense of being pulled in multiple directions. By having control of just one part of it all makes it all less overwhelming. And, if preparing food for such an event is worrying for you just make it a pot luck sort of affair. I know this doesn't make an ounce of sense but seriously, it has helped me in the past.