Hello carriesiegel: Since this is your first post here on PC I thought I would welcome you to PsychCentral. You might consider introducing yourself over on PC's new members introductions forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

And then here are links to 7 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of navigating family dynamics during the holidays:

10 Tips for Surviving Thanksgiving with the Dysfunctional Family

Holiday Feasts and Family Misbehavior

Talking Turkey: Managing Unhappy Relatives at Holiday Time

6 Tips for Dealing With Difficult Family During the Holidays

9 Ideas for Coping with the Holidays When You Have a Mental Illness

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...-the-holidays/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...dium=popular17

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.