Rise13eyond, I keep asking my therapist about this and I'm never happy with her answer. "Emotions are important," she says, yet I use my uber logic to counter every response she has. I beg her to tell me how to become a robot, functioning solely on logic instead of emotion.
Generally, people who feel this way (myself included) feel emotions more strongly than most and we struggle to process these emotions. They're easier to turn off than to deal with head-on.
Technically, by definition, amandalouise is right: Detaching from your emotions is disassociating. However, I've fully disassociated many times in the last year and a half, but I've also spent almost all of the year and a half with at least some of my emotions off. If you're going to tell me that I've been disassociating solidly for all those months, just some incidences more extremely than others, I'd argue with you (although I'd admit I understand why you'd think so based on the definition). I don't see it as the same thing when all of my emotions are turned off because they became overwhelming, resulting in me losing sensations in my body, things being more dream-like, my reaction speed is drastically diminished, my memory turns to mush, and I act like a robot just going through the motions... As compared to times when I'm completely in the here and now, everything is normal, except my emotions are off, but I'm able to acknowledge that I would feel a certain way if my emotions did work, and I will be upset with the outcome if I didn't take those emotions into consideration.
Because of all this time I've spent ignoring my emotions, I've become hyper-logical -- which, if I was a lawyer, would be a great thing but in reality is annoying to everyone around me and it frustrates me when people don't react via logic and reason. (I face-palm myself frequently that people don't realize the world would be a better, less war-torn place if people stopped trying to impose their beliefs on others.)
So my "official" response will be based on logic: Emotions are important, no matter how uncomfortable they feel, and they serve a function of some sort (although I've yet to understand why). If we learn to recognize and deal with our emotions before they become big/extreme then they won't be as hard to deal with. If undealt with, emotions just build up pressure until they blow like a bomb, only how and when they then express themselves are unknown and unpredictable. Alternately, turning off most of your emotions and functioning mostly based on logic, it will only serve to frustrate you that others don't act logically, instead letting emotion affect their behavior.
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