Oh GEEZ Candy. I can only imagine where your head and heart are. I will offer something that I hope is helpful. I will change words, see if it fits or helps. Each child(patient) has a different parent(therapist/psychiatrist} so it is held that each child(patient) has a different experience growing up(in therapy/treatment). In addition they have their own lens with which they view their experiences so it is fair to say though they were sired and raised (treated and counseled) by the same parents(THERAPIST/PSYCHIATRIST) that their subjective experience can be and often is very different from their sibling(OTHAR PATIENT).

Do you get where I am going here? Though the female parent did xyz to me, she did not to the baby of the family therefore we have different histories. It is possible for your psychiatrist to be innocent. It is also possible for him to have been a good friend and one time psychiatrist for you, and whatever this woman is saying as well. If he is innocent I share your sadness but you can't know, may never know. Hold on to what you know for you in your own heart to be true. You are a very intelligent woman. You know these things in your head. I hope my words can help your heart find some peace. Good luck old friend.