I agree. Yes it could be very healing.

My husband’s ex was horrible to him and the kids and she still continues messing with our lives directly and indirectly, he did find a lot of healing in his marriage to me finding out that relationship can be satisfying equal partnership and doesn’t have to be continuous chaos and madness. He had no idea that it could be normal as he spent his entire adult life living in terrible chaos that he tried to manage the best he could.

He is now dealing with feelings of guilt of staying too long out of fear for his kids’ future and sense of responsibility etc He has to undo almost 30 years of damage but it’s amazing how much healing good relationship can provide.