Wow...3 months. I went a week in September and it just about killed Mrhokie. Has your husband noticed? What has he said?

Anyway...staying in a relationship because you are scared to leave is not good. You know that. You are a strong woman...whether you admit it to yourself or not. We know it. If you are planning to leave in the future, start making plans now.

<ul type="square"> [*]Get your own checking account if you don't already have one. Just in your name.
[*]Start saving money so that when you leave, you have some money to keep you afloat until your get a job.
[*]Figure out what you want to do about the pets. Will he fight you for them? Decide what you are comfortable with there.
[*]If you don't have a vehicle in your name, see if its possible to do that.
[*]Let your friends know. They can help you. Whether it be by supporting you or offering you a couch to sleep on. [/list]It's time to start getting your ducks in a row. You do NOT deserve loneliness or hurt. No one does. Once you are out of your marriage, take some time to figure out who YOU are. What makes YOU happy. It's easy to love someone who loves themselves. (Not that I have that first hand experience...but I've been told )

Call or email or pm if you need us. We'll be happy to help. You CAN do this.