A couple of weeks ago, we closed on the sale of our the home I had shared w/my abusive husband for 10 years. That home had been bought w/such hope (on my part) that it would become a happy place and that we'd be there until we were old and gray. But instead, it was where the worst abuse occurred and it was the home that the children and I fled from in July. Even though a realtor handled showings, I still had to go in from time to time and I so relate to your feelings of panic, pain, remembrance triggers etc...I would sometimes feel like I couldn't breathe when I walked in that place. And outwardly, it's such a beautiful house, but for me...just a reminder of a nightmare. If its possible and if you can come to an agreement w/your father...you might want to initiate discussion of unloading those properties....point out to him that if anything should happen to prevent you from being able to handle his care, he needs to have a ready resource. It might just be the best financial (and emotional) move that you could make....love to you!
grace