I posted a very similar thread to this today in the coping with emotions. The OP was nice enough to direct me here. I am a 40+ year old recently obsessed with a 21 year old celebrity. This is not like me at all. If I were to get any crush or anything typically it would be on a character. Not the actor. So this is unusual.

But even in my analyzing the situation I realize it is in fact because I am at the moment largely without anyone. I do have a sister but over thanksgiving was just so horrible. She is so horrible. I don't really have a lot of friends at the moment and I do have a job that has actually brought me into occasional contact somewhat removed contact with celebrities so it is fun to daydream a little.

I kind of think I should just completely indulge it until I am sick of it. Using it like a coping mechanism.

I guess I don't know if I should feel concern at the change in me getting obsessed on an actor which has never ever been my thing but, at the same time I definitely think that it has to do with the not having anyone. Or at the base of it that I am surrounded by grumpy, joyless, lacking inspiration, negative and old (in the sense they are always complaining about their body) people. And I just *need* the joyous, happy, open, inspirational, energetic and positive people and that is tough in reality due to age differences - while online is easy.