I went through a divorce last year that hit me hard financially. I lost pretty much everything. I’ve been slowly rebuilding my life but I’ve been struggling just to make ends meet. My family, who I have had a rough past with, asked if they could help. They were looking at buying a rental property and asked if they bought something near me, if I’d consider renting. I’ve moved 4 times in the last year, having had to change jobs and uproot my life for this divorce, so stability sounded great. We are almost to my move in date, since I had to finish my lease where I am, and my mom shared that she told my sister she could move in too.

Now, I totally don’t want to come across as ungrateful. Or petty. But my sister has a host of issues. She has battled with drug addiction and is an alcoholic. She just had a DUI two weeks ago and totaled a car. She’s lived with my parents— forever. She’s almost 30. She has melt downs and thrown tantrums. And to date, has never paid a bill in her life.

I really need this opportunity for the house but I feel a bit betrayed they’re stipulating I have to take my sister in. Especially since I know I’ll be paying the whole bill. And even if they lowered my rent, I don’t want to live with my sister. She is toxic. It would create much more stress for me.

I don’t want to be ungrateful but I also know there’s no way I can live with my sister. I can’t tolerate the drugs and alcohol and strange men. I just can’t.

So do I back out from this deal?