Yep, I can relate too. I haven't been in another relationship since then, and that was 12 years ago.
If you can identify what makes you happy at this point, and you have ways of making that happen, then, I think you're ahead of the game.
I do think waiting to have relationships is good too, because so often in our wounded state we end up attracting the same kind of person.
Thats why I've been single for all these years. I can't let this happen again. But, I'm an introvert, and being alone feels better to me than being with others.
It sounds like you are more extroverted, so, there is a lot you can do about that. Its' not about what other people think about what you bring or don't bring, or your value, its about whats right for you. I don't think other people - normal people, are thinking about what value you bring either.
You could be like a lot of other people I have known, who just started 'somewhere' with recovering, and before too long they didn't even remember very well who they were at the beginning of putting themselves back together.
Whatever you do becomes who you are.