Been married for 20 years. I work full time and have many interests. However my husband appears to have lost all interest in having a physical relationship. We now have separate bedrooms. I have told him how I feel and he said he was going to see a Dr because he isn't able to perform sexually. He hasn't done so and when I asked about it he didn't answer me. I would hate to think sex is no longer a part of my life but it isn't even all that we've become nothing more than room mates. I realize this is very unhealthy but I also realize we both would have alot to lose if we divorced. Its very hurtful and confusing.