Believe me Katydid,the bible might say honour your mother and father but God's told me if your mother and father /famiy do not honour,respect and treat you well then you do not have to obey them or respect them.You can walk away and let God deal with them,God will love you just the same.God loves you,he loves me,he opened my eyes to my mother who used me like a slave and was emotionally abusive to me,he helped me see that my narcissist mother was against me having a life of my own,that my sister was working to make me mentally insane so that I'd commit suicide so she could take my property.God opened my eyes and saved my life,he wants me to have love,peace,joy and to live in safety.And so to you do not worry about not being able to honour your mother and father ,if they have abused you now is the time for you to heal,let them pay for their sins,you do not sin not honouring them if they have abused you and neglected you in childhood.Be at peace and rest assured.You were an innocent child and you are ok,do not feel bad,do not feel guilty.