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Originally Posted by PurpleMirrors
I am so sorry DP.
What I can tell you, with 100% certainty, is that you can handle this and move past it.
Your therapist sounds very ethical, though it is awful to get such short notice that your relationship is ending. It is common for therapists not to have relationships with clients after therapy is over. It might help to read others’ postings about how personal relationships after therapy did end badly and undid much of the work done in therapy. It’s really not a good idea, but extremely painful to reconcile at the moment.
I am many months post-termination. A termination that was tremendously painful. When I went no-contact with my therapist, a part of me hoped to have a real relationship down the road. After some time and distance, that want has nearly disappeared. I don’t know her enough to miss her (not in any real way) and she wouldn’t have a place in my life now anyway.
It might help to start working with a new therapist to process the loss. Similar to you, I never had a desire to do ‘real’ therapy again. At least not yet. I think support with any major change can be crucial, and the person that helped me with my termination made some great observations that I still hold onto.
Thinking of you and wishing you a fast healing.
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He sadly isn't very ethical. Blurred a lot of boundaries. I've seen many posts of people being able to send email updates now and then. He even told me once that I could do that but now that he wont be having that company email anymore, I get cheated.
He isn't even gonna be a T, so i don't think the post contact is as huge a deal as he is making it
Of course I'll get it through it, with more anger and hate toward humans and more distrust of people in general. Thanks for the well wishes. Def wont be fast healing. I've got no real life support now.