You guys are all so wise!

I’m your age, Katy, and struggling with similar.

I looked up what Honor thy father and mother means, having had no religious education.

Now that your parents have passed, I guess it would mean for you to do what is customary in your religion. In mine, that means lighting a candle on a certain day, making a donation in their memory.

There’s nothing that says you have to have loving feelings towards them, especially when they were abusive. It also says “Children are precious gems that are deposited with parents for polishing and finishing. Parents who fail to build a warm and loving relationship with their children will pay a heavy price for this negligence.”