When I’m sick, I’m usually very sick and unable to care for myself and sometimes I am completely out of touch with reality. Then, I am highly dependent, mostly on my mom (and to a degree my husband and dad) who steps in and takes over. When I’m well, I’m capable of independence. However, the last time I was very sick, it took me 4 years to regain total control of my sanity and as a result, my husband *thinks* he can and needs to control me. It is very frustrating. Am I capable of functioning on my own? Absolutely, 100%. Right now, I work full time (stressful job), take care of my kids and home, and help manage my household consistently and thoroughly and with great stability. My problem however, is that I am quite confident that when and if my husband or mother passes away, I will have another major psychotic break and lose control again. Admittedly, I am afraid of this.