I have looked at it upside down and inside out; borderline traits- idealization/devaluation. I’m not implying you have it, I’m not even sure I have it.

But looking at my past relationships, it sure explains a lot.

I was head over heels crazy over guys who were NOT good partners.

Once there was a post on here that was titled, “Do you vilify your ex?” And my respose was, “What if they really were villains?” Because they WERE.

Depending on the place we are at financially, emotionally, sets us up to make really strange bedfellows.

The most important part is that you got rid of the bad guy and found a good one. Even for someone who got rid of bad guy and simply found themselves, hooray for them, that’s a win, too!