I think he was commenting on my insecurity. That's how I took it. I had expressed to him once that he didn't seem interested. He did say, in response, that he was.

Aloof and distant are really good words to use, yes, that's what he seemed.

When I broke off communication, it was when I had asked if he wanted to talk on the phone last weekend. He answer was pretty lackadaisical. He said something like "Maybe Friday. I'll be at a friend's for a party, so it just depends on how late I get out." He didn't give an alternative day (Saturday or Sunday), and he just didn't seem enthusiastic. I didn't feel pursued and it just didn't feel like he was interested.

I honestly think this: yes, he was interested. But mildly so, and he was keeping his options open, and he was possibly avoidant. And I need something more than that. Especially if I'm into the person. He was on the dating site, and that made me feel weird too. Because I was too, but I wasn't online.

Yeah. it did "get weird," but it wasn't all my fault that it got weird. Part of it was him.

I dated a very lukewarm person in the summer of 2017, and got burned. So I'm not doing it again. He was just like this guy. Very sexually attracted, and way too lukewarm and aloof, and it made me sad.

Yes, I'm attracted to and drawn to these types of guys. But that doesn't mean I have to date them.