I thought you meant you had to do something about their ashes.

There are quite a few people here on PC who need support dealing with their parents. They dont know if its okay to go no-contact, for example. I feel, now that i have gotten off that awful merry-go-round, that the best thing i can do is pay it forward and help them to stop torturing themselves, as my t and other resources, such as books and PC, helped me.