I agree. It shouldn’t feel like a winner or loser. Both should give. But I was as always the only one who gave. My sister judged me harshly and inaccurately. When she said not to speak of it again, she left it at I was completely at fault, she took pot shots at me and then shut it down. We decided to maintain benign contact rather than estrangement. The rest of the family is fine with estrangement unless I call and act like nothing happened continuing the same game that’s been ongoing.

What is a long distance family relationship supposed to be? This is sure not appealing to me.