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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I don’t really know why.. yes I knew he was an addict after he moved in with me but he was abusing just before I moved him here. Had I known this I never would have done that. But you’re right.... I made a big fat mistake but it’s done and in the past. Still it burns me up.
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Well you didn’t know him. How could you? You’ve met online and never dated him in real life. If you dated him consistently for awhile, I bet you’d know he is an addict.
Plus some things you just didn’t think about. Like why would a grown man not have a job or can’t keep a job? Usually substance abuse is involved. I am not even surprised. What you described about him sounds like an addict to me. Now you know. Just live and learn.
When I lived with alcoholic I mistakenly thought that one can just quit. I had no idea. Now I know. Just wanting to quit isn’t enough. We can’t know everything. So we make mistakes. Stop agonizing.