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phelps said:
To me, part of what's important in marriage fidelity is what's going on in a spouse's head.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I think you're going where angels fear to tread? We're all "free" to think what we think. If you're wishing to direct your wife's thoughts, that's probably not a good direction to go in, mostly because it's not possible but also doesn't show a lot of trust or self-esteem either.

I would look at my own feelings of jealousy of a person my wife will never be with to get to really know; for all practical purposes, an "imaginary" character. If you have a jealous streak in you and your wife is aware of it, I wouldn't have wanted to continue the conversation either if it felt like you were going to be accusatory. What she is thinking is her personal business and "demanding" to know what that is in any way is crossing her personal boundaries.

I would let her know in a fun way that you are jealous of Toby Keith and make that into something "fun" between the two of you, something she can tease you about and you can tease her back by doing things for her he obviously can't (anything at all romantic and loving!). You can get to know her better and what she enjoys about him and even emulate his attraction she has for him (other than by singing; singing his songs in the shower if you can't sing is probably a bad idea :-)

Maybe listen to some of his songs and see if you see what attracts her to him and his music?