this is the part i don't agree with anymore. i use to...especially each time i got annoyed when i felt like my T was brushing me aside and telling me i had to learn how to sooth myself. the problem though was realistically that neither i (who had no clue what this concept was because it was never 'encoded' to me) or my T had any clue on how to do that effectively with the limitations of talk therapy and the dynamics of the relationship. this is where i had to seek other means to learn that and get those needs met. once one can learn to regulate the mind and body, this is where the real healing can begin. for some clients, the attunment with T can be enough, but unfortunately for many of us with CPTSD this is not enough and that regulation must be found through other means,i.e. body centred therapies (somatic experiencing, neurofeedback, EMDR, etc),than talking alone and a limited 'caring' non-reciprocated relationship.