Families tend to set up casting roles Tisha, it's like suddenly expecting Archie Bunker to suddenly change and no longer be Archie Bunker because the rest of the characters typically function around his character. You have been handed a role to play in your family and they will treat you like they have always treated you even if you stop playing along. There is no winning in this set up either, that would be asking for everyone to change their role and people tend to function on automatic so they don't have to think as much. So basically, what you are going to keep running into is being treated badly every time you try to push anyone in your family out of their personal role with you.