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Originally Posted by RaineD
I don't think the passage of time necessarily has anything to do with it.
For me, I felt closer to my T after each rupture-repair cycle.
And after I found out he was dying, the fear of running out of time forced me to tell him I loved him. That disclosure and the way he reacted to it made me feel even closer to him.
So, for me, it's events in therapy that made me feel closer to my T, not the amount of time per se. However, obviously, the more time passes, the more time there is for things to happen.
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That’s a good point. My therapist believes that “the relationship is the therapy” which I guess is sort of what you’re saying. We did just have I guess what you might call a rupture, and I actually did feel a bit better after we talked about it. It can be hard for me to hold onto that positive feeling though, although I think I might be getting a little better at it with time.
I’m so very sorry about your T’s death. He sounds wonderful from what you’ve posted. I can’t even imagine how hard that must be.