Riptide - I agree with Echos... tell t everything. I, too, have a t who did that and I didn't say anything and just got totally dissociated and would hurt myself later to come back. With my current t I want to be a part of the process (like Mckell said, I wasn't being an active participant with the other t - well, i was also intimidated by her) so this time i started off with saying "here's what works for me, here's what i reacted to" - and this has moved us further and really created that "relationship" thing.