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Originally Posted by Hbrownflooring92
Thank you for your input, I appreciate everyone taking time out of their day to chime in and offer assistance.
I do trust her 100% as I know 2 people she has dated over the years and she was 110% committed to them. It was that 8-9 month period of time (3 years ago) that she did what she did and it is just hard for me to accept. I try to remind myself that it was over 3 years ago and that people mature, grow, as they age. She's got a really good head on her shoulders and great morales currenty day, which is why I guess it makes it difficult for me to imagine what happened, happening.
One again I appreciate your input!
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TBH I think if you're constantly going back and forth about it in your mind to the point where you want to write it out on an online forum, it is a sign that you're not at peace with it. My experience with this sort of thing is that it is like an orange/yellow flag (not quite red, but certainly not green. It's enough to make you slow down). You can stop or you can move on, but understand if you do, you'll be living for atleast the next couple of years, if not the rest of your lives together, with that decision.
You keep saying she shares your morales, but you might want to sit and really consider whether you're trying to convince yourself of this. For me, a person having more than fifteen sexual partners in the past does not matter and I am not even someone who engages in casual sex, I just don't hold it to such high regard or was not brought up to believe that it is a sacred act. But you might be different and that's okay. Your peace of mind is important in general and in your relationships. She sounds like a great person and also deserving of someone who can accept her wholeheartedly. Hope you can come to a decision which results in peace for you both in the long run.