My whole life I have been able to end friendships. It is the one thing I am super good at. I describe it like this... I let a lot of things go but once it *flips* in my head -- like a light switch - I am done with you. Often times that switch is slow to flip.

The switch got flipped the other day.

This person was a good friend but I have simply had it. It is sad but...

1. This person is a work "friend" for 14+ years she had it easy. She had easy bosses and no one really made her do her work. But even then she got brought up on insubordination charges and almost got fired. In contrast I don't even have a single note in my file.

2. A few years ago things switched, she got a boss who wouldn't put up with her stuff and I got a boss who was nicer. I knew this boss would have it out for her because he had to deal with all her stuff when she had it easy. I told her to get out... she stubbornly refused. She stubbornly refuses because she lives 3 minutes from her work place.

3. For the last few years she has failed to do her jobs so many times she has spent most of it on probation and once getting suspended without pay for a day. But because of all the strife...the powers that be decided to give her less work. This means the work is distributed to others. In addition, she has been given special accommodations. Such as, a laptop with the special secure work ability so she can do work from home (to me this makes zero sense since she lives 3 minutes from work) and also, gets hotel rooms to stay over during her long travel times.

4. She often gets special accommodations because her mother has "cancer" - well I have never seen such a thing. This cancer, assuming she has it, has been going on for 4 years.

5. She complains loudly and bitterly about not being able to get time off. However, I cannot tell you how many times *I* have been in and she hasn't. And when she isn't... it isn't like she is off for a day. It is like a week. I did my FIRST week long vacation this year after 15 years where I work. To get that I had to schedule it when my boss was also on vacation.

But finally:

6. Often when I call her about anything if she does pick up... almost immediately she will say she has to go. For at least a year, she has been doing this. I let it go because I know she is busy but, more and more I am suspecting she isn't busy and just picks up the phone in case I have something to say that is interesting but if I want to talk about me... bye!

7. I am facing a bit of an issue where I live that since I moved in I haven't had one visitor. No family, no friends. And people do notice these things. So I made a little joke to her about how people think I am a serial killer since no one comes over and that kind of was a hint. And every time she sees me she says she has to come visit, but, she never does.

8. She goes on over and over and over again about how she is a survivor. In her mind she survived the horror and pain of getting knocked up when she was 15. And, in her mind this is something to survive. Though to me it seems like it wasn't that much to survive. She ending up marrying the father and was legit married for most of her life. I have a survival story too, but, I don't share it with her. Mine is legit... because *I* didn't cause it. But I have never mentioned it to her. I have often noticed that... when people really struggle they tend not to want to talk about it - because it is painful. But she never ever has asked me if I had a struggle or anything at all and seems to have never considered that at all. And even when i want to wallow in my "struggles" I tend not to because I realize there are always people who have it worse.

9. She is completely unsupportive to me if I have the slightest complaint about my boss because, in her mind, he is the best boss ever. She cannot allow that even if he is a good guy he might not be the best boss. Or that I could have stress due to the work that got dumped on me. I no longer have any right to complain about anything because I have a "good" boss. She has the right to complain DAY and NIGHT because she has a bad boss.

Sorry for the long rant but I had to get it out.

Typically when she visits my workplace she wants me to come for lunch with her but I won't be doing that any longer. When she asks if I want to come up I will just decline.