I agree with the above. Attend your appointments alone. If H attended my therapy session, it would be so awkward, I would get nothing out of it. Especially when you are in such a bad place, you need to feel free to tell the therapist everything you need to, and having a husband present would hinder or even stop that, especially with the problems it seems your whole family is dealing with at the moment (each with their own serious issues), they should be concentrating on fixing their issues, especially your H though it sounds like he is not.