Your therapist is missing your core challenge and that's not all that unusual golden. That's why she is rolling her eyes, she hasn't hit your actual challenge yet where she can help you recognize it too.

Also, I got interrupted when I talked about the cooking with you. It's not about cooking but instead about your taking on something that you have been avoiding and I think if you and even your fiance were to take it on that it could actually be very therapeutic for the both of you. A lot of the time people "avoid" cooking for fear of things not coming out right. It is these same people that never have dinner parties or host anything unless it's at a restaurant or someone else does the meals. This tends to connect to growing up with a parent or parents that are perfectionists. I know about this because my father was HORRIBLE when it came to needing the meals be perfect according to his own idea of what perfect was.