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Originally Posted by DP_2017
He went on to basically blame me for everything, saying he did all the things he did with me because I asked him too.... and that he regrets doing out of office work. He claims being with me outside the office made him uncomfortable which is why he is not open to a friendship, even after 2 years "It will always feel too weird and professional" too him.
He felt cold and distant. Barely saying anything to my sadness. Not seeming to understand or care at all.
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*sigh* i'm sorry...
your Ts behaviour towards you in your last session leaves me with nothing nice to say
ex-T gave me a similar speech when he regretted blurring the boundaries and 'giving in' to an idea, when ironically, it was his idea to fully follow through with it in the first place. similar to your T, ex-T later regretted doing it and tried to put the blame on me. in the end he was doing nothing more than covering his own selfish arse.
unfortunately, we see this time and time again by the stories shared on this forum. it's an incredibly painful lesson to learn when you come to realise that one of the persons you've shared your most vulnerable parts and trust with is only looking out for their own needs and feeding their selfish tendencies
i know that this was not the lesson i was intending to learn when i signed up for therapy, but it's probably the one that has left the biggest lasting impression on me and has definilty taken a bit of time to recover from.
be kind to yourself
