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Originally Posted by astoldbyginger
Be yourself, do whatever it is you need to do to accept your past (you are fairly young, as the years go by and you meet different kinds of people, this will become easier) —read books, meditate, also watch content about inspiring, eccentric people—and you will eventually meet/ attract people who have complex stories themselves, who will understand you. Pursuing not only women, but anyone, with little knowledge of who you are can lead to painful outcomes.
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Thank you. I realize that you're right on this point in a profound way; I try to learn more (in general and introspectively) and am more comfortable with myself every day. I guess I'm just impatient, since this relationship stuff has felt like a big missing puzzle piece. I should note that I've never been in a "proper" relationship, men included.
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Originally Posted by Bill3
Some will find your clumsiness and your lack of experience to be refreshing and endearing. 
What sort of mixed signals are you getting?
You could read up a bit for advice on how to date, but I think that the main thing is to try. You will learn as you go. |
Thanks for all the help, Bill. I hope you're right about the first point haha.
Well, we are definitely friends as it stands, but it revolves mostly around our friend-group, which includes my two close guy friends. Mixed signals in that I've heard that she's into me (from my buddies, so who knows if it's true), but she can be standoffish sometimes and there's just this weird tension sometimes. She laughs pretty hard at jokes I tell, or just random things I say... sometimes the only one laughing. But she's also very detached sometimes and is, in my head at least, out of my league. We hang out at her apartment a good bit in the group. Is this what I've heard guys talk about forever in terms of a "friend-zone"? Lol. I wish she could give me some signal that I can run with. I worry we are too far into the friendship/group dynamic in the first place.
EDIT: Oh, and most important in all of this in terms of my hesitation is my fear that she thinks I'm gay. If she does, it nullifies all of this, no? I hate the idea of trying to "prove" I'm straight, especially when I'm working through it all still internally.