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Originally Posted by koru_kiwi
*sigh* i'm sorry...  your Ts behaviour towards you in your last session leaves me with nothing nice to say 
ex-T gave me a similar speech when he regretted blurring the boundaries and 'giving in' to an idea, when ironically, it was his idea to fully follow through with it in the first place. similar to your T, ex-T later regretted doing it and tried to put the blame on me. in the end he was doing nothing more than covering his own selfish arse.
unfortunately, we see this time and time again by the stories shared on this forum. it's an incredibly painful lesson to learn when you come to realise that one of the persons you've shared your most vulnerable parts and trust with is only looking out for their own needs and feeding their selfish tendencies i know that this was not the lesson i was intending to learn when i signed up for therapy, but it's probably the one that has left the biggest lasting impression on me and has definilty taken a bit of time to recover from.
be kind to yourself  |
My ex-marriage counselor did similar things during the rupture that ultimately led to termination. He said he should have been more consistent with boundaries. Which to me felt like he regretted giving me what he had, like out-of-session contact and caring. And he also tried to gaslight me about a couple things, claiming he didn't do them when he did. It felt like he was just trying to make excuses and cover for himself. It really hurt and made me view the relationship differently. I'm still working through it now, almost a year since the rupture and 8 months since the actual termination. But my T is helping me process it now. I don't think I was really ready to process it before.