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Old Dec 01, 2018, 07:23 PM
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Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
If a friend said that to me, I'd also be hurt. I did think it was open and honest from him but it does not mean it didn't hurt. Why would anyone enjoy hearing that, from anyone else?
I did not mean to suggest anyone would enjoy it but, at least for me, I usually value if a friend tells me directly if something about me or what we do makes them uncomfortable - then I can pay attention and do things differently. It usually does not mean they don't like me or don't care, more the opposite. And I also like if I can be that direct with a good friend. It is not pleasant but an effective way to resolve issues in a relationship, IMO. But from a T to a client, I think they should not say anything like that or do it very carefully and thoughtfully, also time it well. I am pretty sure Ts feel uncomfortable around many things with clients, just like most people with work challenges sometimes. But they are not paid and called professionals to voice their discomfort, especially without a therapeutic reason for the client.