I admire your honesty in admitting some not so nice qualities. I don’t know what is normal, the average person, I guess. I don’t think what you describe is the average person’s way of thinking. You are more an extreme, IMHO.

I have been dumped before by guys who I felt they were out to hurt me because they got some jolly out of that. Thanks for confirming.

I suppose we all technically use people for some reason, even if that reason is for love.

I think the average person would think that the reason for a party is to enjoy the company of others. Sure, they might be hoping to hook up or make a business contact too. But I hope there is a genuine good intention.