So if I understand you correctly, you as well as the many others who post similar stories wanted what could be described as a magical virgin--the hot sexxy woman who only gives it up to (whoever is writing the story.) But, if that relationship goes kaput, then the woman is either now tainted (to the next person who comes along wanting sex with the hot woman but also wanting her to be virginal--or she becomes a woman who has had sex (in the past, with someone else).

I'm not sure which church you are talking about; I guess I don't know any churches that condone sex outside of marriage; and if that is the case, what difference does it make if the person has had sex with 1 or 2 or 20?

I think nowadays most people expect women to put out for various reasons but mostly revolving around pleasing the partner who wants the sex, and the sooner that she puts out the better, but which brings us back to the problem above. It's an untenable situation for women.