I'm a little confused.....you were ONLY wanting to be there for him because YOU felt sorry for him being alone. Then when he assures you that he is not alone & has friends & girlfriends there supporting him you get offended?

Did you know his mom? Did you have any kind of relationship with her? You aren't together. Did you really expect him to not have friends supporting him right now since you were no longer in his life?

I am just trying to get a real picture of the dynamics that are going on here. Why is it so hurtful that he is assuring you that you don't have to be nice to him just because you feel bad that he lost his mom & you thiught he was alone without any friends supporting him.

Unless you knew his mom well, sending a nice sympathy card would be suffucient in this situation to show that you are sad about his loss. Expressing your condolences is sufficient in this situation. You should have been done with him before this. Were you hoping that feeling bad for him & reaching out would make him realize what he had lost when he dumped you? That woukd have been enough for me to never consider even reaching out other than sending a card to acknowledge his loss.