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Old Dec 02, 2018, 11:50 AM
IceCreamKid IceCreamKid is offline
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Originally Posted by Hbrownflooring92 View Post
@Rose76 - Thank you very much for your insight - It was well written and I found it helpful. I agree with you that she should not apologize to me for her past and that she owes me no explanation for it. I've told her this as well, which is what led me to venting on here rather than to her.

@IceCreamKid - Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to the thread as well. I am not expecting a virgin. As I mentioned prior, I too have made some questionable decisions in my younger years and it would be hypocritical of me to point out someone else's mistakes while I have made some of the same. I would like to state that I also don't believe a woman is tainted from having sex and I wasn't by any means trying to imply that.


While some may say what's the difference from having sex with 1, or 2, or 20 people, - the higher the number of partners makes me question how they view the importance of sex (at least in my opinion). If she only had a few prior partners I would not be here asking for advice getting over the past. I know but someone sleeping with 15, 20, or 30 people is more on the excessive side for me. That doesn't mean I want to throw in the towel and be done, it also doesn't mean I am judging her. It's just a hard pill for ME to swallow I am just struggling with thoughts of her having that many sexual partners.
But your comments about how important sex is to you: the quantity, the quality, the circumstances, the partner, the number of previous partners --should all be discussed with the person with whom you're having sex. I believe if people disclosed fully what it was they found truly important, there would be far fewer broken relationships and sexual hookups masquerading as relationships. Furthermore, men might find that women are interested in a lot of things besides orgasm. Maybe that is the lesson to take away here.
Thanks for this!
Hbrownflooring92