I would say I feel you. I focused on this before, and I failed miserably. So, now I just don't try anymore. For me I think it's part of a larger problem: I am very bad in socializing for whatever reason and have very dull life; I don't have friends, hobbies, passion, my relationship with my family isn't good, and now I don't have a job. So, I know I am out of the game to impress a potential partner.

Good luck to you. I hope you will find someone.