Sunrise
When I read you initial post again what struck me was that you presented your T with a family problem and he agreed with you that it was a mess but then said lets deal with your needs first. This to me was really cool. I also found it really cool that you were willing to accept this. This demonstrates that you have reached a point where you recognize that your needs are important and worth his attention. I'm not there yet. I would likely have resisted this direct attention and wanted to focus on what to do about the kids. Mainly because I sometime am still unwilling to accept that thing that directly help me, often directly help my kids. I think the fact that you were receptive and open to putting your needs above other family members may have helped you receive his message more clearly. I think also the fact that you are comfortable moving around the therapy room suggests that you are really comfortable and that also allows information to flow better. I am still planted to the same spot on the ugly couch. I think my physical tension sometimes prevents messages from reaching certain brain centers until well after the session. My T sometimes moves from her chair and immediately my attention directs to that and away from what is being said. This little distraction impedes the flow.

So when I read your post I think your ability to receive the meaning of something that has been said before but not really appreciated is because you may have been in a different frame of mind or level of comfort than you were before.

Also, thanks for the reminding me that there is a way out, I just have to be willing to get into the right frame of mind to see it. My first post was from my 10 yr old ego state, not my adult ego state :-) I need to learn to detect this and confront the fact that I am now in control.

Thanks for sharing your experience in your session, I helped me see some little subtle things that are going on in my sessions.