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Originally Posted by Lrad123
I think the process of working out the changes together is what’s important and that’s where I am now. I actually agree that in my case maybe his email responses were enabling something and preventing growth, but it still hurts. In my case, I was particularly hurt that the decision was made without consulting me. It felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me and that I was treated disrespectfully. We talked about it last week and I actually felt partially, but not completely better about it. So I’m still thinking about what bothers me and how I’d like the process to go.
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I agree with this. The process of working out and agreeing the changes together has been invaluable for me.
For example for me is that I learnt to think about and vocalise my needs. And I fear conflict so I had a successful example of overcoming that to build on in my real life. I had an opportunity to re-parent the child within that was scared of change cause change had always been (felt or preceived to be) frightening and bad.
It's a process that is fraught with opportunity to go pear shaped but, for me at least, it's working at this time.