My thought is to opt out. You're not going to hurt your brother by this, if this guy is his friend then there is no doubt he knew what he was doing and is not innocent in all of this.[/QUOTE]

I’ll probably go because he’s my brother and I love him. My brother was friends with my ex before I even went out with him so I don’t feel it’s right to ask for my wishes to be granted but I guess you still understand the discomfort of it all. I’m not sure what my exes intentions were in asking if I was happy. I did speak to him when I dropped his belongings off to him and he said he just wanted to know how I was going but he asked that in a very direct manner.
It is a good reminder that I needn’t needn’t of to his events if I don’t want to, although I feel that’s would backfire for me in him not wanting to hang out with me so often id i make a stance against my ex.