I'm very sorry for your pain and your experience. ((((Hugs)))))

Honestly? This man is a liar, a cheater, and a severe alcoholic. You've given him chance after chance, but he is not to be trusted. He did awful things behind your back, yet keeps convincing you he loves you and wants to be with you, but he lied and cheated. He went so far with his lies to convince another woman he was leaving you, separated and would move in with her.

The alcoholism is a lifelong problem. Can you really ever trust him again? And even if you could, can you deal with his alcohol problem? This man is very problematic. I know you love him, but I wouldn't put up with any of that BS a second longer. He needs to straighten out and be sober for at least a year.

Why not separate at least and see how that goes? You're putting up with FAR too much BS, and I'm afraid your future with this man is not optimistic, unless he can completely turn himself around, and that is going to be very hard for him. Even so, there is the trust factor.... I wouldn't want to be with someone who had cheated on me, but it's up to you to decide what to do and what you will and will not tolerate.