One of my 15yr old twin daughters who is on work experience this week came back home this morning having forgotten her bus pass to prove shes a student and sometimes the drivers will let her on sometimes not, then she left again to continue her journey to the job she has beening doing the past 2 weeks and text me from the bus stop saying now another bus hasn't come along and she's going to be late, and that she will tell them when she arrives that she had a dentist appointment, I replied, no just tell the truth why your late, its up to them whether they believe you or not its not your job to disprove or prove otherwise. I realised how unconsious we can be of our co-dependencys and how all these little interactions when growing up in "damaged" families we not taught who-we-are and what is our repsonsibilty or not. I know if that had been me in her position within my family my mum would first have just attacked me for having forgotten my bus pass or she would have told me I need to make up some excuse why I was late, it was a feeling of lighteness I felt around this interaction with my daughter this morning and a feeling of having been supportive toward my daughters right to make a mistake and be truthful about it. ...it amazed me how a normal day to day event such as this would have become something so much more major for myself growing up, and its only through therapy that I have learnt that its ok to be who you are and to not have to placate others by making excuses for an error that happens sometimes...