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Old Dec 03, 2018, 08:57 AM
Lrad123 Lrad123 is offline
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Originally Posted by feileacan View Post
But this grown adult puts themselves in the 'child' position by emailing vulnerable stuff in between the session? The grown adult would go and address stuff in the session, no?

I'm not saying that emailing or not emailing is wrong but just pointing out that if one party for some reason needs to act as a child then why complain that the other party responds as a parent?

That's exactly how transferences are playing out. Transference relationship is not the same as the therapy relationship. Email exchanges happen in the transference relationship while paying for services happens in the therapy relationship
This is interesting to me because now that you mention it, I think my T has said something about the emails coming more from a child place which is embarrassing to me because I’m a full-fledged adult. Even if it is coming from that place, does that mean that T shouldn’t engage? It makes me feel like those “child” thoughts and feelings or whatever you want to call them are not valuable since he has chosen not to reply to them.