The term "negative bonding" came up in another thread and I just wanted to highlight that this seems to me a very descriptive term that I had not heard before -- at least I don't remember it.

I expect that I was negatively bonded to my family of origin, too.

Therapy, for me, did not help me overcome that -- it just replaced it. That may explain some of therapy's "addictive" quality, too.

I thought that I had a negative transference toward my last therapist, and told her that even but it sounds from what others have described that my negative experience was something different. I knew what I was feeling but I didn't "own" it -- in order to keep the relationship, I expect.