I am 5'4" tall, have a medium frame and I weigh 146 LBS.

I struggled with weight in my early 20's weighing in at my largest at 210 LBS.

My most recent ex and I had this mutual attraction to each other at that time. The weight had nothing to do with the way he felt about me. He tells me all the time that I was drop dead gorgeous at 210 lbs.

Weight loss is like fighting an addiction to food. At this point - she is not overweight. I admire you trying to eat healthy, excercise, etc.....but.......if SHE WANTS to loose the weight she has to find what works for her. Did you ever ask her what her own opinion is on her weight?

I think you are being a little selfish. You have every right to be attracted to super-thin women but why torment her for your WANTS?

If that is what you desire -then go for it but don't make her miserable in the process?

I don't know really what to say to you. My most recent ex and I are trying to work out our problems. One of the things he's brought up in our many conversations is how I obsessed over my weight and how I thought he was going to leave me for a skinny chick. What he said to me was, "I love you for you - not your weight - that is not what I fell in love with."

I don't know. Maybe you should ask her about her feelings. If she doesn't want to loose weight, and that is something that will constantly bother you, then maybe you need to move on.