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Originally Posted by Eleny
Thank you. I just didn’t feel heard at all. I was trying to explain why I empathised so much with my abusive ex boyfriend, I told her that deep down he’s a very vulnerable person and it hurts me to think he’s alone and has no friends. And she said “he’s a psycho who doesn’t deserve friends”, and that just broke my heart, because she wasn’t listening to what I was saying and I felt so much worse when she said that.
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That's hugely invalidating. Abusive relationships are complex and there's nothing unusual about having mixed feelings about an abusive ex. She sounds unskilled and unable to listen.