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Old Dec 03, 2018, 04:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Eleny View Post
Thank you. I just didn’t feel heard at all. I was trying to explain why I empathised so much with my abusive ex boyfriend, I told her that deep down he’s a very vulnerable person and it hurts me to think he’s alone and has no friends. And she said “he’s a psycho who doesn’t deserve friends”, and that just broke my heart, because she wasn’t listening to what I was saying and I felt so much worse when she said that.
That's hugely invalidating. Abusive relationships are complex and there's nothing unusual about having mixed feelings about an abusive ex. She sounds unskilled and unable to listen.
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight