My therapist is my safe place. A lot of times I don't even realize I'm upset, because I wear a layer of calm over it. But when I hear his voice on the phone, or walk into his office and sit down, I feel safe to feel how I really feel. To not put on the calm front that lets me get through the day. It's a good front. A lot of times I don't even notice it's there, and that gets me in trouble sometimes because I don't realize I'm upset.

But for me, it only lowers once I'm in his office (not even in the hall), or when I hear his voice on the phone. Before I see him, I work to get in a deep, centered space. Maybe you feel safe as you're going to see him instead of once you're there. Maybe you feel safe enough to feel.

That's just my experience, and it may not be yours.