Ok. I see much better what your perspective is more likely to be. Most people I interact with here are medicated one way or another, unlike you. But also, many are going to have mal adaptive, learned behaviours too.

Often emotionally dependent people get wrapped up with narcissists. This is exactly what happened in my last disastrous relationship.

What's also paradoxical is that dependents are often narcissists too but in an 'inverted' way. I am not saying this is with you, but I also have strong narcissistic traits some times that lead to unintended effects where I push people away without meaning too or do other things.

I'm also an introvert which makes all these kinds of problems socially 10 times worse or more. I think introversion exacerbates tendencies to social isolation and there is now almost a sport in excluding people from one's lives, if they don't measure up in one way or another.

Sorry to hear your ex husband was so awful in managing your finances and left you dispossessed when you probably thought you had made it to financial security. I can imagine that is a big hill to climb over but you can do it if you have your health and mental clarity and a bounce in your step.

It sounds like you are saying this is just something you have to go through on your own.

But I also think there are specific therapy approaches for this. No?

I would be cheered if I got a compliment like that!