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Old Dec 03, 2018, 11:29 PM
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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie View Post
Who does not get transference the way we seem to? The enmeshed kind? The kind that is all consuming? If a person went into therapy who came from a family with both parents and had their needs met, verbal & pre-verbal, get that kind of transference?

Interesting how a topic like this has the most replies compared to other postings.
I come from a family background that included many unmet emotional and physical needs, and I don't think I've experienced all-consuming transference or enmeshment with my therapist. I suppose it could still happen at some point, but regardless I don't think it's a clear-cut causal thing.

I've seen both extremely good and extremely bad therapists, so I also don't think I have rose colored glasses about the whole therapy thing. I do think it's a problem that many therapists aren't equipped to deal well with transference if/when it occurs. I get a lot of comfort out of knowing (at least intellectually) that my current therapist could handle it well and productively if I did become obsessed with him or developed erotic transference.
Thanks for this!
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